We talk a lot about balance in this industry. Work-life balance. Generational balance. The balance between high performance and sustainable culture. And yet, for something we talk about so much, we seem to get it wrong just as often.
Here is what I have come to believe: balance is the wrong goal.
Not because it does not matter (it does!), but because the word itself sets a standard that does not reflect how our careers, our teams, or our lives actually work. Balance implies an even distribution. A steady state. And in a 24/7 industry built on exceptional service and performance, chasing that steady state is a fast path to frustration.
What I have seen work in strong leaders and strong organizations is something closer to intention. Knowing what season you are in, being honest about what that season requires, and leading accordingly.
That looks different at every stage.
In your 20s, the focus is usually on building. Saying yes, gaining exposure, proving what is possible. Energy is high, and flexibility is greater. The foundation is being laid, even when it does not feel like it.
In your 30s, the picture gets more complicated. Careers take shape, leadership responsibilities increase, and life outside of work often expands in significant ways. Time becomes more finite. The pressure to do everything well, all at once, tends to peak right here. And that pressure, if left unexamined, can do some damage.
By your 40s and 50s, priorities often shift toward sustainability and impact. The questions change. It is less about what you are achieving and more about how you are achieving it and who you are bringing along. There is a greater pull toward mentorship, toward building teams that can outlast any single leader, toward creating something that holds.
And further down the road, many leaders find themselves focused on legacy. Not necessarily in a self-congratulatory way, but in the quiet, purposeful sense of wanting to leave things better than they found them.
These are generalizations, of course. Every path looks different. But the point is not to create a rigid framework. Instead, give yourself permission to be where you actually are, rather than where you think you should be. So, what season are you in right now? Are you leading in a way that reflects that answer? Be honest!
The most effective leaders I have worked alongside are not the ones who had it all figured out at once. They are the ones who were clear-eyed about their current season and understood that giving more attention to one area did not mean failing in another. It meant responding honestly to what was needed in that moment.
That clarity is also what makes them better at leading others.
Today's workforce spans multiple generations, each navigating completely different life stages at the same time. A team member early in their career may be hungry for opportunity and advancement. Another may be managing leadership responsibilities while raising young children. Someone else may be looking for stability, flexibility, or a renewed sense of purpose after years of grinding. And all of these individuals are often working together on the same team, with the same organizational goals or expectations.
These are not competing needs. They are simply the realities of a diverse workforce, and ignoring them is a leadership choice, whether we recognize it as one or not.
Organizations that acknowledge this build stronger teams. Not by lowering standards or creating inconsistency, but by leading with clarity while allowing for flexibility where it genuinely matters. By building pathways that do not assume everyone is in the same season of life. By creating a culture where people feel supported in the stage they are actually in, not measured against a standard that was never designed for them. Think about one person on your team right now: Are you leading them where they are, or where you expect them to be?
None of this happens without some degree of personal honesty first.
As leaders, we have to be willing to define success on our own terms, not based on external expectations, but based on what aligns with our values and our current reality. That definition will evolve. That is not inconsistency. That is growth.
We also have to extend ourselves and each other a measure of grace. Not every season will feel balanced. Not every decision will feel clean. And not every path will look the way we thought it would.
But none of that diminishes the impact being made or the progress being built.
There is no perfect timeline. There is only the path in front of you and the opportunity to navigate it with a little more clarity, a little more honesty, and a lot more intention.
